When Two is family
I have two daughters aged seven and 10. My in laws are insisting for a third child as they want a son in the family. Don’t know what to do now?
Mrs Bhagat, UP
What is the assurance that the next child will be a boy? I understand your mental condition. But, dear woman, please don’t let these old school ideas rule and ruin you. There is no difference between a boy or a girl. It all depends on the upbringing. Be firm on your decision and don’t let anyone else take charge of such a personal decision.
I want to get out of my marriage. I don’t love him at all. We had an arranged marriage last year. How should I approach him?
Try to hold on. Give your best to your relationship and don’t decide on divorce only because you feel you don’t love him.
Love is a strange game. You never know when the cupids play their cards. Try to start the relation with your heart and take some more time to understand yourself. A divorce is easy to pronounce but sometimes difficult to bear.
I was physically intimate with my cousin during my last visit to my aunt’s. He is nine years older than me and I’m 19. I feel terribly guilty and don’t know how to face him again.
There is nothing you can do to undo. The options are simple, get it like a sweet dream or a bitter nightmare or else, live with the guilt forever. If you are uncomfortable looking back, then I sincerely suggest you to delete the memory as soon as you can. The encounter should be forgotten and treated more like an accident. Don’t be guilty and just move on.
An unknown guy is texting me every day. He sends poems and romantic stuffs. I’m curious about him but not sure how to deal with this. Can you help?
Revathi, New Delhi
Just don’t get into this trap of faceless infatuations. Most of the times, the reality is far away from expectation. Don’t give into anyone based on such frivolous communication. Try to find out the identity of the sender and be very cautious. Life is not a fantasy trip but a realistic one.
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