Well begun is half done

I have two daughters aged 5 and 8. My in laws belong to a business family and are insisting for a third child. They want a son in the family. Don't know what to do now.

Name withheld

What is the assurance that the next child will be a boy child? I understand your mental condition. But, dear woman, please don't let these old school ideas rule and ruin you. There is no difference between a boy or a girl. It all depends on the upbringing. Raise your daughters well and I'm sure that they will never be less of a man. Speak your mind with your husband and be firm on your decision. Don't let anyone else take charge of such a personal decision. Good luck.

An unknown guy is messaging me every day. He sends poems and romantic stuffs. I'm curious about him but not sure how to deal with this. Can you help?

Tania Ghosh, Kolkata

Just don't get into this trap of faceless infatuation. Most of the times, the reality is far away from expectation. Don't give into anyone based on such frivolous communication. Try to find out the identity of the sender and be very cautious. Life is not a fantasy trip but a realistic one. There are far many cases of heartbreaks and cheating around. Please be careful before you experiment with life.

I had a physical intimacy with my cousin when I last visited my aunt in our village. He is 7 years older than me and I'm 19. I feel terribly guilty and don't know how to face him again!

Name withheld

There is nothing you can do to undo. The options are simple – forget it like a sweet dream or a bitter nightmare or else, live with the guilt forever. If you are uncomfortable looking back, then I sincerely suggest you to delete the memory as soon as you can. The encounter should be forgotten and treated more like an accident. Don't be guilty and just move on.

I want to get out of my marriage. I don't love him at all. We had an arranged marriage last year. How should I approach him?

Name withheld

Try to hold on. Give your best to your relation and don't decide on divorce only because you feel you don't love him. Love is a strange game. You never know when the cupids play their cards. Try to start the relation with your heart and take some more time to understand yourself. A divorce is easy to pronounce but sometimes difficult to bear. If after weighing every option and still decide to move on, then kindly be transparent with your husband and communicate well. In no condition you have the right to play with his life.

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