Trust your instinct and play safe
Your choice should not be controlled on what He wants or expects. Never rush; two people stay a lifetime only when they respect each other’s opinion.
My brother is 23 and doing his MBA. He seems to fall in love with many. Isn't it really bad?
Neha Singh, New Delhi
This isn't a bad thing, and it doesn't mean that someone like this is desperate only because they are more vulnerable to falling for people. They may experience the initial rush of falling in love many times but rarely get past the initial phases to develop a strong and lasting relationship. Being someone who falls in love easily is an advantage when it comes to dating because you don't have to dismantle your own fears and defenses to let someone in but imagine if you could only give your gift of love once more in your life. This would mean you would be much more discerning about who received it – they would have to be someone very special, who you got to know well, to ensure that they were the right person before you ever said those three little words and gave them your heart.
Since I was a baby my mother has been beating me up. Sometimes I have been naughty but most of the occasions, it is not my fault. I'm 19 now and she continues to hurt me.
Everything you have talked to me about would be called physical abuse. It is very wrong and should not be happening to you. Nobody has the right to hurt you like this. You deserve to feel happy and safe where you live. The quickest way for the abuse to stop is to tell a trusted adult such as a teacher or guardian or a senior member of the family, they will then be able to support you and contact people who can keep you safe. Do take care and be safe. You are important and there are people out there who would want to help to stop this abuse.
I got engaged and now my fiancé is forcing me to get physical. I'm not sure about taking this step. Can you guide?
Miss D Jha, Kolkata
This is completely your personal decision. If you like him, you have faith and you are comfortable, you surely can get closer. It is completely your choice and should not be controlled on what he wants or expects. May be some more time and you will be feeling complete being with him. Don't rush into it. Two people stay a lifetime only when they respect each other's opinion. Your partner will surely understand you and will help you overcome the inhibition. Trust your instinct and play safe. All the best.
I feel everyone is selfish and is in my life for a reason. Is this abnormal?
Tina, New Delhi
I request you to have confidence on yourself. If you have a positive inner self, nobody can scar it. It is indeed a fact that in present time, there seems to be a difference between the face and the mask. People do have some hidden agenda which may conflict with your expectation.
The best way to be a happier individual is to have less emotional involvement. Give every association the time it requires before you give in or open up completely. Selfish people do exist but alongside exists the good souls. Life will bring both. Wish you the luck to differentiate between the two.
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