Take pride in grooming
I'm madly in love with a man. I think he likes me too. Do women propose?
P. Agnihotri, New Delhi
Many women still wonder if it is right or wrong to propose a guy. Tradition believes that it is a man who first asks out a woman for a date but now the scenario has changed. It is perfectly right for a girl to propose a guy. Just consider some important things before you pour out your heart to the man you love. Avoid choosing a crowded place to propose him. Proposing at any crowded place might put both of you in an awkward situation. Make sure the spot you have chosen to make your proposal should provide some privacy.
Love letters can never be passé. In the age of e-mails a love letter is a rarity. One can put her feelings elegantly through written words. If you are feeling awkward to tell him your feelings you can always to write a letter. Prepare yourself for rejection too. It is not necessary that a person whom you love will love you back. Respect his decision come what may. If he is destined to be with you, he will be with you anyways. Otherwise accept the rejection and move on. Don't get emotionally dependent on him or anyone. Best wishes for a lovely love life!
I met a girl through a common friend. She seems to be interested on me, yet, there is something that I find mysterious about her. How can I find out more about her?
Just interact with her. Spend quality time to communicate. Meet for tea, go for walks, go for window shopping, movies… somewhere everyday, or most of the days of a week to know her closely. Some people do take a bit longer to open their hearts and speak out their life, but, that doesn't mean they are 'mysterious'! Keep your eyes, ears, heart open and start walking the path with her. Don't have premonitions before you understand the person. Try and meet her as a new friend. Explore the friendship first before you start any relationship. Good luck!
I'm very average to look at and want to look better. Can you suggest some ways
You don't have to make major changes in order to look and feel your best. Nose hair, ear hair that's poking out anywhere else on your face isn't sexy. Get rid of excess hair in these areas. Plus, exercising will boost your confidence and give your skin a healthy glow. Everyone finds a healthy set of teeth and gums attractive, and not taking care of your mouth can be downright repulsive. Whatever combo of hair and facial hair you settle on, always take pride in grooming. That means maintaining healthy hair with regular cuts and styling.
Taking an honest assessment of your body and face can go a long way toward helping you make the most of your appearance. When you know your weak points, you'll be able to minimise them or conceal them to your advantage. Make an effort to eat right and you'll have won half the battle in looking your personal best. But at the end of it all, it is your over all personality and your soul that makes you shine. Do spend time to build your personality and looks will surely follow.
My ex-boyfriend is threatening to expose our intimate mails and digital pictures. I'm feeling horribly scared. My family will disown me. What can I do?
Name unknown, New Delhi
Oh dear, that's terrible! Don't you have anyone in your family or circle of friends who can help you fight this out? You perhaps would need some strong support of your family to sort this mess. Don't be scared. Blackmailing is a punishable offense and he should realise his stupidity soon. Don't delay any further. Involve the ones you can trust and sort it soon. Family might get angry but they will always support you and will take care of you at all times. Be confident and fight this out. Don't lose heart.
I'm 34 years old and the only daughter of my parents. My father expired 13 years back and my mom is dependent on me. I don't know how to initiate my own marriage! Nobody seems interested about that.
Miss Jaya, New Delhi
In your situation, do not hesitate to initiate the process of marriage. If there's no prospective groom, register for online matrimonial sites or newspaper ads. Keep in mind that the man you choose should definitely be someone who will understand and help you take care of your mother. This might be a bit depressing and demanding, but you have to help yourself and look out for your ideal partner. All the best!
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