Menace of blackmail
Is adultery a crime? What's your opinion? I'm single but curious to know.
Raniya, New Delhi
Adultery is a voluntary consensual relationship between a married individual and someone who is not his/her lawful spouse. Adultery is considered as legally wrong and is a punishable offense. The act of adultery is a crime which breaches the marriage vows and is detrimental to public morals. It is regarded as illegal in some countries and certain laws have been passed to keep a check over adultery. Although adultery is not a criminal offense, it may have legal consequences and the individual concerned may be penalized and punished especially if the case is pertaining to divorce. This is the way the adultery laws are depicted in our country. In my opinion, the involved individuals are the best judges to determine the moral and social consequences.
My husband is 12 years older than me. He doesn't seem to be interested in having a child! We had an arranged marriage and he loves me a lot. What to do?
Mrs. Dixit, New Delhi
The decision of having a child has to be a mutual one. You have to establish your desire and clearly state your mind. It is quite selfish on his part to be ignorant about such a vital aspect. May be you can involve the parents who in turn can help him understand the need of an offspring. Please don't lose heart and I'm sure everything will fall into place. Be confident and don't compromise on this at all. You have your right to motherhood and your husband has to understand and value your desire.
I often feel very depressed. I am afraid that slowly I might become a patient of depression!! I'm 32 and single.
If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better.
Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. Once you get in the exercise habit, it won't take long to notice a difference in your mood.
Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy.
Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. Feeling connected to friends and family can help relieve depression.
Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions.
Look on the bright side. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal but you can fix it before it breaks you.
My ex boyfriend is threatening to expose our intimate mails and digital pictures. I'm feeling horribly scared. My family will disown me. What can I do?
Name unknown, Haryana
Oh dear, that's terrible! Don't you have anyone in your family or circle of friends who can help you fight this out? You perhaps would need some strong support of your family to sort this mess. Don't be scared. Blackmailing is a punishable offense and he should realise his stupidity soon.
Don't delay any further. Involve the ones you can trust and sort it soon. Family might be angry but they will always support you and will take care of you at all times. Be confident
and fight this out.
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