Eliminate the fear of sleeping alone
I had started a business with all my savings but it failed. I'm utterly demotivated. What can I do now?
Deb Basu, Kolkata
The fact that you tried is a good start. Don't make it too personal. Separate the failure from your identity. Just because you haven't found a successful way of doing something (yet) doesn't mean you are a failure. Take stock, learn and adapt. Look at the failure analytically. Why did you fail? What might have produced a better outcome? Was the failure completely beyond your control? After gathering the facts, step back and ask yourself, what did I learn from this? Think about how you will apply this insight going forward.
Thomas Edison reportedly failed 10,000 times while he was inventing the light bulb. He was quoted as saying, "I have found 10,000 ways something won't work. I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward." Best wishes for future.
I'm 4.7" tall. My friends and family tease me and I don't know what to do!
Oh dear! There's no need to feel sad and upset. If you put on a big smile and ignore the teasing, it'll eventually stop. Don't let it affect you at all! Short people are cute and adorable. Hold your head high and be a sweet person. Everybody out there has something they don't like about themselves. We are loved and remembered by how we are, not by how we look. You can also flaunt high heels in style and be a diva! Just enjoy the joyride called life.
I'm 32, the only son of my parents. I got married last year. My wife and my parents fight everyday! I don't earn well enough to live separately and my wife is a housewife. What should I do?
The best way to mend this is to relocate to a place very close to your original home. The financial constraint might be solved if your better half gets involved in some job, tuitions or small time business. Three adults cannot be tutored to live peacefully and if you don't check the situation now, it might linger and take a bitter turn in near future. Try talking to your parents and wife separately or may be a group chat over a small family vacation might give some positive results too. In the meantime, prepare to start your family outside your parent's shelter. Do face and solve the problems rather than neglecting it. Handle it with utmost care so that you don't hurt or break anyone's heart. This can't be avoided for your own mental peace and the benefit of your relationships. Good luck!
I have shifted to Delhi and I'm very scared of sleeping alone. I'm turning insomniac. How can I overcome this?
Mary Gomes, New Delhi
I completely understand. This is what I have personally tried and has helped me overcome the fear of sleeping alone. A little noise might help you. While people with insomnia often play music that is combined with the sound of nature; in your case too, you may need to play the sound of people talking. Turn on the TV, choose a 24-hour news/ music channel, and adjust the volume. It is quite likely that you'll get bored and can sleep more easily soon.
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