LETTING IT BE
Some people believe that the ability to change is a sign of great strength – however, there are times when it takes much more strength to let things be as they are
My son declared that he is gay. My husband asked him to leave the house and ever since, I don't know where he is! I'm worried about him and sometimes feel guilty about the situation too.
I'm so sad this has happened – sad for your son, who must be devastated, but also sad for you. Forget your foolish pride or the opinions of outsiders. Look deep into your heart and realise that your son needs you, your love, acceptance and support to find happiness in his life. Realise that anyone who judges your son and your love for him negatively is not worth your attention. Find your son, confess your sin of pride and your fear of being ostracised, and bring him back into the arms of a loving mother. I wish you strength to overcome your prejudice and let the love back into your heart.
My father is having an affair. He seldom comes home and our family is shattered. I'm a student in college and helpless. Please suggest.
D Khan, West Bengal
It must be really difficult for your mother and you, yet there is very little you can do. Try and have an open chat with your father and tell him the mental agony you all are facing. If nothing else, then the best decision is to let him be. As a mature man, he is aware of his duties and the effect of his decision. If he is unable to comprehend and acts selfish, it is really upsetting. Be your mother's strength and do whatever you can to take care of her. She needs you the most. Don't lose hope. Time and patience often yield the best results.
I am 24 and in relationship with a girl since 5 months. But my girlfriend keeps talking about her ex. How do I make her stop talking about the other guy? I need your advice.
Sometimes people do things unintentionally, unknowingly. Please stop fuming over this communication gap and try telling her how you feel. Express and be vocal about it. I am sure she will understand and you both will be fine together. Just be open about your feelings and don't worry so much. Love is always meant to go a long way if it is true. Talk it out, sort it out and sail smoothly. Good luck.
My wife had a promotion at work and now earns much more than me. She acts bossy and rude. What can be done? I'm very worried about us.
If you are sure that her financial strength is the reason for your unhappiness, please try and work some better arrangements. I do not know your profession but in today's time, multiple sources of earning is becoming vital for survival. In the mean time, try and express your concern to her. If she loves you, she might change her behaviour. She needs to understand that your support is her strength too. Don't try to fight and make matters worse. Be patient and lovable. Don't lose heart and be brave enough to be happy at whatever cost. Good luck.
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