HANDLE WITH PATIENCE
The ability to patiently and calmly handle anything that life throws your way with a clarity of mind helps in making better informed decisions
I want a dog at home but my dad isn't allowing me. What should I do?
Megha Tilak, New Delhi
No matter how desperate you are, as long as you are living in your dad's house, you have to go by your dad's rule. I'm sure your dad has his reasons for not wanting a dog and you have to respect that. It would not be fair to the dog as they are very sensitive and lack of love will affect them too. When you get older, get your own place and can support yourself and your pet, then you can do what you want. Until then, live with the dream and love all the dogs around you.
I'm 20 years old. My mother still treats me like a little boy. She pampers me in public and embarrasses me in front of my friends and relatives. I feel very irritated.
T. Nair, New Delhi
If need be, route it through your father or any other elder member of your family. Sometimes parents always think that we are children and act accordingly. It is her love that she showers on you. Don't be rude but act maturely to handle this. Make her sit down and explain her what irritates you. You are lucky to have loving parents. There are many who are deprived of this. So, handle her with love and I'm sure she will understand your point of view.
I had stolen some cash from my father's wallet and he had charged our driver for that. It's been many weeks but the guilt is chasing me. What to do?
Write a small note of apology to your father and explain what you have been going through for the last few weeks. Apologise profusely to the driver too. If not directly, do ensure that you be a better human and be extra nice always. Mistakes can be rectified anytime and this will help you lead a heathier life. Don't let guilt settle in. Face it to overcome it. It's never too late to be 'sorry' or 'thankful'. Best wishes!
I have fallen in love with someone who is engaged to my friend. We also had physical relationship till a few months back. I love him; What should I do?
You've got yourself into a fine pickle. This guy appears deceitful. You know you should walk away, don't you? It is hard, it will break your heart but you will get over it and move on. You too deserve better than this man. He might drop you when someone better comes along, if he doesn't already have others. You also will lose your friend forever if you don't stop now. Let me know what you end up doing. All the best.
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