Faith: Cure of the heartbroken
My daughter is in class 4. She is very afraid of the dark. Need guidance please.
Reetu, New Delhi
Fear is a normal part of life for all of us, including young children. It tends to start when you try something new, something that is an unknown. The fear of the dark tends to evolve around the time when children are old enough to have a sense of imagination. The best thing a parent can do for a child with a fear of the dark is to communicate, be respectful, and show that you understand. Be sensitive and don't tell them their fear is silly. It'll not help and they will be still scared, they will feel guilty and ashamed too. Install night lamps and assure of your availability even if you sleeping in separate rooms. Monitor the TV and entertainment habits. Be warm and friendly. If it doesn't help, visit a specialist. Good luck!
I have spent a lot of my life dealing with so many two-faced, unfaithful relationships that I simply do not trust anyone anymore. Is this abnormal?
I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes I feel the same way too. It is indeed hard when all you know is betrayal, but trust me... there are good people out there. You just need to learn how to pick them out of the crowd. I wish you the very best to stay calm, patient and wait for the right time and right one. Faith is the only word that will work for most heartbroken ones.
My child is 8 years and he is still wetting the bed! Can you suggest me how to control this?
Mrs Agnihotri, Haryana
Reassure your child by being supportive. He isn't wetting the bed on purpose. Explain that it is very common, and that he won't forever wet the bed. Bed-wetting often runs in families. If you or your partner had wet the bed as a child, talk with your child about it. It'll help him see that people do outgrow it. Many things can lead to bed-wetting. It could be slower development of bladder control or heavy sleep, hormonal issues, stress and anxiety. Make using the bathroom just before he gets in bed part of his bedtime routine. Also remind him that it's OK to get up during the night to use the bathroom. Be sure to speak with your doctor if this continues.
I have done a mistake but don't know how to say the perfect 'sorry'. Need your help.
Perfect 'sorry' seems like a really good question. Here's my view and I sincerely hope this helps -
1. Be truly sorry that you upset the other party
2. Acknowledge the hurt done, and take responsibility for making amends.
3. Commit to not letting it happen again..
4. Express appreciation for having the other person in your life.
5. Ask for forgiveness
6. Follow through with improved behavior
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