‘Romantic dinners can boost your sex life!’
My friends always insist that I should go to Mumbai and be an actor. I am handsome and smart. I’m 19 years old. How do I become an actor? My parents insist I continue my studies and do my Management.
Satya, in our country we really have fantasy towards the tinsel town. I’m sure that you have the potential to try your hands in acting. But at the same time, you must understand the level of competition one has to face and overcome to make it to films. I suggest, you finish your graduation and try your luck. Parents usually think well for us. Give yourself a few years, show your determination to them make them understand how serious you are about your dream. In the meantime, hone your abilities as an actor. Enroll in a good gym, learn acting, watch good movies, read about world cinema and prepare to plunge. Good luck!
I got married very early. We eloped when I was 16 and he was 20. I am a mother of a 3 year old now. I have recently discovered that my husband is having many extra marital affairs. I’m shattered. How can I stop him?
Name not given
It is not easy to really stop anyone from doing anything. But, you should do everything to try and stop this. Words, emotional blackmail, threats, tears… use every weapon possible to rectify this situation. Confront him directly and warn him about the ugly consequence that one has to face for adultery. The age is sometimes the reason why there is a lack of maturity and may be with time the situation will improve.
We are married for 12 years. Our sex life has lost its charm. Things have got downright boring. Sex seems to always be the same old story. How to start afresh, is it possible.
Mrs and Mr Bhagat,
Break out of your rut. Try something new. You don’t have to go crazy or anything. But you can change positions and try the ones you have never done before. You can spice it up with extra foreplay, sex toys, sexy lingerie, dirty talk, or a hot massage. Even something as simple as a romantic dinner or weekend can make the sex life better.
I am a divorcee. I got attracted to my brother-in-law who helped me a lot in my divorce process. He is years younger to me but I love him a lot. But don’t know whether he loves me or not. What should I do in such situation? How do I gauge his true feelings?
Name unknown, Pune
You are caught in a cleft stick. You haven’t written the reason for your divorce. In India, we find that most of divorce cases are caused by the pressure of living in a joint family. And if your case is also the same, then I do not think that any close association in that family is advisable. We all need good friends and company and this loneliness is the reason why you have got attracted to your brother-in-law. No doubt he adores you a lot but do not make the mess of your life.
He might have helped and supported you only because his brother did wrong to you. So it’s better to live the life as its going and if something would be positive from his side then he himself will propose you!
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