Pangs of Loneliness
My girlfriend keeps talking about her ex all the time. How do I make her stop talking about the other guy?
Ravi, New Delhi
Are you sure your girlfriend is aware of the heartache she is causing you? Sometimes people do things unknowingly. Stop fuming over this communication gap in your heart and try telling her how you feel. I am sure she will understand and you both will be fine together. Just express yourself and don’t worry so much. Love is always meant to go a long way if it is true. Talk it out, sort it out and sail smoothly. Good luck!
I’ve just returned from Pune where I did my Engineering. I feel very alone here. I feel completely out of place.
Deepak, West Bengal
Probably the place you left has left a permanent impression on your mind. Or maybe the independence of staying alone, the freedom of being your own guardian gave you peace. Try to engage yourself in some work that will occupy your mind. Check out for a couple of months and if you still feel uneasy, you can relocate back to Pune or any other place of your choice! One life, don’t compromise on small things. Cheer up!
I work in a hospital. I’m single and live with my parents. I feel very lonely. I feel distressed. Can you please help?
Many people honestly believe that they are lonely because they’re single and that their loneliness could go away if they found a relationship. Others believe they’re lonely because it’s something inherent about them. Some can’t differentiate being alone from being lonely. What is this specific feeling you have? Sometimes loneliness is a symptom of a greater problem. If you feel like the entire world just doesn’t get you, you may benefit from seeing a psychologist. Being lonely can be synonymous with depression, though it doesn’t have to be. Either way, seeing a mental professional can help. Just talk to someone you can trust.
It can give perspective on what’s normal and what’s not, what you can do in your outside world, and what you can do just by focusing and changing up your routine. Having a support system can make all the difference. Cheer up!
My child is 10 years and she is still wetting the bed! Can you suggest me how to control this?
Mrs Singh, New Delhi
Reassure your child by being supportive. She isn’t wetting the bed on purpose. Explain that it is very common and that she won’t forever wet the bed. Bed-wetting often runs in families. If you or your partner had wet the bed as a child, talk with your child about it. It’ll help her see that people do outgrow it. Many things can lead to bed-wetting. It could be because of a slower development of bladder control or heavy sleep, hormonal issues, stress and anxiety. Make using the bathroom just before she gets in bed part of the bedtime routine. She should not fear seeking assistance at night just in case she is afraid of the dark. Be sure to speak with your doctor if this continues. Please relax.