'Nothing wrong with being gay'
My husband had a previous marriage. In fact, this is our second marriage. Though I have no association with my ex, he is in very good terms with his previous wife. I feel jealous and insecure. How should I cope with this?
Name unknown, Agra
Sometimes you have to express and demand. If you really can’t tolerate this, then be transparent and let yourself go. But, please understand, some relationships are impossible to forget. May be his ex is a very close friend and the friendship is the only reason for the closeness. Try to understand him and try to be his closest companion. Love replaces love, anger will only spoil it.
As I’m growing older, I am losing interest in women. I don’t feel turned on by any level of closeness. Am I turning gay? I’m feeling very guilty about it.
RT, N Delhi
Always remember that you are not alone. If you are gay, know that there are many, many gay, lesbian, bisexual and straight people all over the world who have been in your situation. The doubt. The nagging guilt. The uncertainty. They’ve all been through it. Try not to think of your new sexual revelation as a burden; instead, think of it as a liberation. There is nothing wrong with being gay. You are not any less of a person for being who you are.
My daughter-in-law is from a very affluent background and time and again she compares our present with her past. Sometimes that leads to major hassles between my elder son and his family. How do I solve this problem?
Janaki Dave, Gujarat
Did you try explaining this to her? Sometimes we appear rude, but we are probably ignorant. Our silly, immature self neglects small yet significant things. Try to sit down with your son and your daughter in law to explain where things are going wrong. Let them understand your concern. I’m sure, the matter is trivial and she will understand in future.
While having sex, my boyfriend uttered the name of another girl. Upon asking, he denied this and is trying his best to prove me wrong! I have lost faith. Am I stupid?
Why don’t you have faith in your love and trust him once? Why can’t you erase the memory of one incident and believe him? It is impossible to comment on your query. This stray incident should be just noted and put on backburner. Keep your sixth sense on. If he’s upto something wrong, it will surely come to light. Have a good life and don’t stress yourself so much. Trust me dear, it’s not worth it!