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Life is not a fantasy trip

Life is not a fantasy trip
My parents got divorced when I was 9 years old. I live with my father. My mother remarried and I really miss her presence in my daily life. I’m 15 now. How do I deal with this?
Sachi, Agra

There’s nothing much to do. You can perhaps express yourself to your parents and take turns to live with them. The understanding has to be clear from their end. You must spend quality time with both your parents and request them to help you sort out your life and be a happy soul.

I have two daughters aged 6 and 8. My in-laws are insisting for a third child as they want a son in the family. I am very nervous. Don’t know what to do now!
Name withheld

What is the assurance that the next child will be a boy? I understand your mental condition. But, dear woman, please don’t let these old school ideas rule and ruin you. There is no difference between a boy or a girl!!! It all depends on the upbringing. Be firm on your decision and don’t let anyone else take charge of such a personal decision.

An unknown guy is texting me everyday. He sends poems and romantic stuffs. I’m curious about him but not sure how to deal with this. Can you help?
Deepa, New Delhi

Just don’t get into this trap of faceless infatuations. Most of the times, the reality is far away from expectations. Don’t give into anyone based on such frivolous communication. Try to find out the identity of the sender and be very cautious. Life is not a fantasy trip but a realistic one.

I had sex with my cousin when I last visited my aunt in Dehradun. He is 8 years older than me and I’m 16. I feel terribly guilty and don’t know how to face him again!
Name withheld

Well, its upto you what you want to do! The options are simple – forget it like a sweet dream or a bitter nightmare or else, live with the guilt forever. If you are uncomfortable looking back, then I sincerely suggest you to delete the memory as soon as you can. The encounter should be forgotten and treated more like an accident. Don’t be guilty and just move on.

I want to get out of my marriage. I don’t love him at all. We had an arranged marriage last year. How should I approach him?
Rekha M, New Delhi

Try to hold on. Give your best to your marriage and don’t decide on divorce so soon only because you feel you don’t love him. Love is a strange game. You never know when the cupids play their cards. Try to start the relationship with your heart and take some more time to understand yourself. A divorce is easy to pronounce but sometimes difficult to bear.

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