I’m Mr. Lonely
I’m from a very conservative family. I haven’t ever had any boyfriend. My parents have fixed my marriage and I’m very nervous imagining the physical relation with my husband. <g data-gr-id="62">Please</g> advice.
Name unknown, Agra
I understand your fear but for generations and ages we have followed a cycle. Not just humans, but animals in general. <g data-gr-id="70">Physical</g> need is a very strong need and it has a huge contribution in marriage. Be relaxed and let your man take charge of it. Follow your instincts, reciprocate his actions and if you feel uncomfortable, just ask him to take it slow. Wish you the best always. Let love grow, the rest will follow!
My cousin is a very good student. I’m always asked to ‘be like him’. This irritates me too much. How can I handle this constant stress?
<g data-gr-id="61">Akshaat</g>, New Delhi
Just BE YOURSELF. I never am advising you to neglect studies. Put in your best. Study hard, studies have no substitute. You can always use earphones to ward off the words that hurt you and don’t worry about ‘comparisons’.
We all go through this! Emerge as a good human being and success will kiss your forehead.
I’m in love with someone who has no feelings for me. How can I make him love me?
Sangita, New Delhi
You actually can’t ‘make’ anyone love the other! Yes, a genuine effort to express effectively should be there. You should not regret later. As they say - love defeated is always greater than what defeats it! If the ‘other’ has to love or reciprocate, it will happen naturally. If not, always remember – better and best awaits.
My wife and I have no understanding. We are always fighting. I feel I should file <g data-gr-id="65">divorce</g> but I’m not sure whether <g data-gr-id="66">its</g> the best thing to do. When does once know that its ‘time to move on’?
It is a tough decision yet it is perhaps the time when your mind and heart both believe it. When you both have crossed the threshold of <g data-gr-id="69">tolerance,</g> when the happy moments are far lesser compared to the tears and pain accumulated, you can think. But, do go for counseling with your wife and give an honest effort to hold the marriage together before you file divorce.
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