Hit me not!
My husband beats me up. We are married for last 6 years and we have a 3 year old son. I’m living in hell. What can I do?
D. Rani, New Delhi
To allow a man (or anyone) to put their hands on you is a form of mental destruction. Such domestic violence is the worst thing you can allow your child to witness. Unfortunately people have the habit of repeating these sick actions if they are not stopped the very first time. I suggest, stand up and fight it out.
Take strong steps and if need be, involve your family or close friends to seek legal advice. Keeping quiet and tolerating is no sign of showing strength or love. You will lose your mental peace, confidence and gradually be depressed. Please take a decision and we wish you good luck.
My wife moved out of home with my daughter. She is 8 years old and I am shattered. How can I bring them back?
Devesh Sharma, Noida
I wouldn’t be able to comment or guide much as I have no understanding of the situation that led to this. But, one thing for sure - if you really want her back, you will do anything and everything to sort this mess. Whatever is the problem, solve it and assure your wife of a better tomorrow. Don’t leave any stone unturned to win your family back. The time is rough, pray and work hard to solve this.
Our personal life is completely over since my wife got too busy with the children. I feel that I might land up betraying my wife. Would that be a crime?
Crime? Well, that is too strong a word and is completely based on your perception. I understand how difficult your situation is. Why don’t you force her to take a holiday or a weekend break with you? If she is avoiding this, just warn her that you will go and explore the vacation offer that one of your ex girlfriend/ woman colleague was indicating! Jealousy and insecurity will heal your situation and might act as a catalyst in your life. Good luck!
My husband works in an IT firm. He’s completely addicted to technology. It’s affecting our lives very much. What should be done?
Mrs. Beena Gupta, Kolkata
Technology is a boon but we need to know when to switch off. We definitely have to unplug before bed, as keeping technology in the bedroom tends to get into our personal space. It also serves as an early morning distraction and potentially makes us late to work. One of the major problems technology addiction has caused is a lack of awareness.
Technology transports our minds into another place regardless of where we are. If you start spending a little more time with him, make him aware of the surroundings and show your love.
He will also become far more functional in various situations and will get closer to you. All the best!
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