‘Emotional blackmail works with parents’
My father has been having an affair with a lady for several years. My mother is a homemaker and she has tolerated this for years. I have got a job now and will soon move to another city. She refuses to move with me. What should I do?
Om Prakash, Uttar Pradesh
Women are miracles. We tend to tolerate beyond our means sometimes. You surely should try and convince her. If she still doesn’t agree you can try an emotional trick after you’ve settled in your new place. Just call and pretend to have a health issue. Mothers are bound to leave the world behind to take care of their children.
Once she’s with you, blackmail her emotionally by highlighting how much you need her. This might work!
I have two daughters. My elder one is fair and pretty and the younger one is dark. Our relatives pass comments on this and this affects my younger one badly. How do I handle this?
Divya Mathur, New Delhi
Stop meeting such relatives! In today’s day and age it is just pathetic that someone’s complexion is still a discriminating factor! This is really sad and unwanted. You should ensure that you drill this well into the heads of both your children that colour and looks don’t compose a person’s life. Always highlight small, good things to your daughters and appreciate their talents. If the younger one is ever upset about this, tell her that she is the most beautiful thing that happened to you.
Our only son has developed a major drinking issue. He has his own business but he regularly comes home in an unstable condition. What should we do?
Mrs and Mr. Sinha, Haryana
You should have a chat with him at the breakfast table. As parents, express your concern in a friendly manner. Try to understand his reasons for drinking so much. Don’t get into an argument, avoid confrontations if you can. Look and sound hurt but don’t nag. Parents’ tears and sincere requests sometimes have huge healing effects on kids. You can also take some inputs from doctors who can advise you on ways to treat alchoholism. Seek professional help from rehabilitation centres, if needed. Good luck!
My best friend and I have fallen for the same girl. We all go to the same college. I don’t know whats going to happen in future! Please help!
Well, either you both will fall out of this ‘crush’ or either one has to let go in the near future. Another thing that has to be considered - what does the girl feel? This triangular love story sounds interesting but in reality, only those ‘two’ will be together who have similar frequency and wavelength. Love will happen only when the two ‘click’. So, your friend and you have to wait for the right time to understand what’s best for all. Don’t lose your friendship for anything else!
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