Being honest never hurts
My girlfriend has suddenly started hiding facts from me. According to her, I need not interfere everywhere! This sudden change of behaviour is hurting me a lot. How to handle this?
Dev Sehgal, New Delhi
Maybe you can try and do the same. Portray as if you have secrets to keep and things to hide from her. Arouse her curiosity, let her be in your shoes to probably understand your present state. If you feel, she is cold, not responsive, then maybe, you should consider the status of your relationship. Transparency, honesty and absolute faith are ingredients that make a relationship. Sometimes just let go to get it all. Else leave it to live happy. Good luck dear!
I broke up with my boyfriend and now I want him back, but he acts happy without me!
This is a lesson, this is an opportunity for you to grow up and act like a mature woman! If you can’t do that then you are not old enough to be in a relationship with any man. Break ups and heartaches are a part of life. Don’t get affected and please don’t be upset because he is happy without you!! Everyone has the right to happiness and may be, life without you is his choice. Act like a good soul and move on with a positive frame of mind. Nothing stops without anything or anyone. Your break up must have been a mutual decision and you should not sit and brood over the past. Listen to good music, watch If he is meant to come back, he will. If not, God has better plans. Cheer up girl!
My girlfriend is a compulsive liar. I’m extremely upset. Why does she lie to me?
There are people who lie and then there are liars. All people, at some point or another, lie. White lies exist but we often substitute the word “excuses” for “white lies.” But it’s basically the same thing. On the other side, there are habitual liars. These people have made a habit out of lying. Sadly, here are some hard truths about liars. Think about it, why do people lie? They don’t want to look stupid, they don’t want to be wrong, they don’t want to let people down, they want to keep everyone happy, they want to get what they want. All of these motives have the “self” at the center. Anyone who lacks the courage to look at the truth is a coward. Cowards are really hard to love. They will perpetually frustrate you. Instead of admitting their shortcomings, their failures – their basic humanness – they will lie in order to cover it up. Please understand where you stand and decide where you want to take our future with her. Too much frustration will break you. Think and move.
Last week when our parents were out for a day, I caught my sister having sex with our neighbour. When I asked her, she admitted of having an affair with him. I’m very confused whether or not to tell my parents. Can you suggest what I should do?
You surely have the option to tell your parents but that will hamper and strain your relationship with your sibling, may be forever. If I was you, I would have kept quiet (assuming she is old enough to indulge in a relationship). Sometimes acting dumb and being quiet help us attain our mental peace. If someday you find that the situation needs parental intervention, please do convey your feelings to your parents. Until then, live and let live for a peaceful living.
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