‘Sex between couples should be for mutual happiness’
2 Dec 2013 3:01 AM IST
My parents fight over everything. I’m in 8th standard and feel like running away at times. Is there something I can do to sort it out?
Neha, Haryana
Why don’t you express your mind to your parents? May be you can write a letter or mail them. I can understand how difficult it is. But, you have to stay put till you grow up and move out. Tell them exactly the pain, the agony and explain clearly. Sometimes we are blind and have to be told directly. Wish you good luck dear!
My uncle (my father’s brother-in-law) has a habit of touching me at every opportunity. He tries to be over friendly and cracks sleazy jokes! This truly irritates me! How can I stop him?
Devika, New Delhi
Tell him - STOP! If politeness doesn’t work, be rude and be firm. Whenever possible, avoid him completely. Just vanish when he’s around. Otherwise, just warn him that you will tell your family about his acts. This should be sufficient for him to understand and behave sanely.
My husband gets violent during sex. We are married for 5 months and he has hit me a number of times, he bites and I have bruises all over. He says he finds pleasure that way. Is this normal?
Name withheld, New Delhi
He believes in masochism — deriving sexual gratification from being physically or emotionally abusive. Your husband is a sadist too! Well, many couples do enjoy this kind of a sexual fantasy. But, it seems you are not comfortable at all. I suggest, you be firm and tell your husband that you don’t like it. Hope he understands you soon and making love becomes enjoyable for you.
My son is 19 years old. I have got to know from his friend that he’s involved in a relation with a 36-year-old divorced woman. We are shattered! Please advise!
Mrs. Mehta, Noida
Please have a friendly chat with him. Not as a mother but as a friend. Understand his reasons for being involved with someone who is that many years older and a divorcee as well. The relationship that the two share could be pure friendship and may be you are reading too deep into it. Most of the times what we hear is half or no truth.
Don’t worry too much yet, be there with him. He surely needs a good companion and sometimes sheer loneliness make us walk lanes that we otherwise would have avoided.
My wife is too religious. Almost 15 days a month she sleeps separately and gives the excuse of her ‘guru’ for not having sex with me! We are married for two years and this is affecting my sex life badly. What to do?
Animesh, Manali
This is really sad! Just tell your wife that her guru and she are forcing you to look for fun outside marriage! She needs to understand you and maybe she is not realising what she is losing by being unreasonably ‘religious’! No woman would want her husband to look for physical pleasure outside, hence I hope she will change her life to accommodate your happiness as well.
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Neha, Haryana
Why don’t you express your mind to your parents? May be you can write a letter or mail them. I can understand how difficult it is. But, you have to stay put till you grow up and move out. Tell them exactly the pain, the agony and explain clearly. Sometimes we are blind and have to be told directly. Wish you good luck dear!
My uncle (my father’s brother-in-law) has a habit of touching me at every opportunity. He tries to be over friendly and cracks sleazy jokes! This truly irritates me! How can I stop him?
Devika, New Delhi
Tell him - STOP! If politeness doesn’t work, be rude and be firm. Whenever possible, avoid him completely. Just vanish when he’s around. Otherwise, just warn him that you will tell your family about his acts. This should be sufficient for him to understand and behave sanely.
My husband gets violent during sex. We are married for 5 months and he has hit me a number of times, he bites and I have bruises all over. He says he finds pleasure that way. Is this normal?
Name withheld, New Delhi
He believes in masochism — deriving sexual gratification from being physically or emotionally abusive. Your husband is a sadist too! Well, many couples do enjoy this kind of a sexual fantasy. But, it seems you are not comfortable at all. I suggest, you be firm and tell your husband that you don’t like it. Hope he understands you soon and making love becomes enjoyable for you.
My son is 19 years old. I have got to know from his friend that he’s involved in a relation with a 36-year-old divorced woman. We are shattered! Please advise!
Mrs. Mehta, Noida
Please have a friendly chat with him. Not as a mother but as a friend. Understand his reasons for being involved with someone who is that many years older and a divorcee as well. The relationship that the two share could be pure friendship and may be you are reading too deep into it. Most of the times what we hear is half or no truth.
Don’t worry too much yet, be there with him. He surely needs a good companion and sometimes sheer loneliness make us walk lanes that we otherwise would have avoided.
My wife is too religious. Almost 15 days a month she sleeps separately and gives the excuse of her ‘guru’ for not having sex with me! We are married for two years and this is affecting my sex life badly. What to do?
Animesh, Manali
This is really sad! Just tell your wife that her guru and she are forcing you to look for fun outside marriage! She needs to understand you and maybe she is not realising what she is losing by being unreasonably ‘religious’! No woman would want her husband to look for physical pleasure outside, hence I hope she will change her life to accommodate your happiness as well.
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to - [email protected]
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