‘Parents are important but so is love’
19 Aug 2013 2:02 AM IST
I’m in love a girl from a different community. Both families are against our marriage.
Rajpal, Delhi
It completely depends on you both. Assuming you are matured adults and have confidence in each other. Parents are important but your life and love in your life is equally vital. So, judge the situation and try to convince the families. If they seem adamant, you can decide to be together and get married.
I have studied in a Hindi medium school. Now I face major issues with spoken English. How can I improve myself?
N. Gopalan, Raipur
You can enroll in a spoken English class. Alongside, watch English channels, read English newspapers and read it aloud. Whenever possible, talk to your friends and family in English. It's your confidence that will yield the maximum result. So even if you make mistakes initially, DON'T STOP.
My father is an alcoholic and creates trouble every night. My mom is terrified and I am hating it.
Sarika, Noida
I understand how ugly this can be. Alcoholism is a disorder that needs to be treated. I'm sure at some point of the day, he is sober. You should speak to him, try to tell him the pain you go through. Use all weapons possible - tears, swears, threats.. Convince him to consult a specialist and take him to a clean-up centre. If he ignores, your mom and you should relocate to a separate address and see if his isolation helps him understand the problem.
I had sex with a college mate. I’m very scared of pregnancy. What should I do now?
Name unknown, Mumbai
Firstly, don’t panic! What’s done cannot be undone. Secondly, do a pregnancy test. Thirdly, do a STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) test. Hoping all will be fine. But, if there’s anything unwanted, go to a proper gynecologist immediately. From next time, please - ‘Play Safe’!
I am 19, my parents want me to get engaged to a family friend’s son. I don’t want it. How to get out of this situation.
Rachana, Haryana
Rachana - just put your foot down. If need be, speak to the guy. May be, he too is also unsure but is unable to deny the parental pressure! If you are unable to convince, get engaged on a condition - you will not marry before 5 years. Understand the guy, understand whether you like him enough to marry him. If there's anything wrong, then take it up with your family.
All the best!
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to - [email protected]
Rajpal, Delhi
It completely depends on you both. Assuming you are matured adults and have confidence in each other. Parents are important but your life and love in your life is equally vital. So, judge the situation and try to convince the families. If they seem adamant, you can decide to be together and get married.
I have studied in a Hindi medium school. Now I face major issues with spoken English. How can I improve myself?
N. Gopalan, Raipur
You can enroll in a spoken English class. Alongside, watch English channels, read English newspapers and read it aloud. Whenever possible, talk to your friends and family in English. It's your confidence that will yield the maximum result. So even if you make mistakes initially, DON'T STOP.
My father is an alcoholic and creates trouble every night. My mom is terrified and I am hating it.
Sarika, Noida
I understand how ugly this can be. Alcoholism is a disorder that needs to be treated. I'm sure at some point of the day, he is sober. You should speak to him, try to tell him the pain you go through. Use all weapons possible - tears, swears, threats.. Convince him to consult a specialist and take him to a clean-up centre. If he ignores, your mom and you should relocate to a separate address and see if his isolation helps him understand the problem.
I had sex with a college mate. I’m very scared of pregnancy. What should I do now?
Name unknown, Mumbai
Firstly, don’t panic! What’s done cannot be undone. Secondly, do a pregnancy test. Thirdly, do a STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) test. Hoping all will be fine. But, if there’s anything unwanted, go to a proper gynecologist immediately. From next time, please - ‘Play Safe’!
I am 19, my parents want me to get engaged to a family friend’s son. I don’t want it. How to get out of this situation.
Rachana, Haryana
Rachana - just put your foot down. If need be, speak to the guy. May be, he too is also unsure but is unable to deny the parental pressure! If you are unable to convince, get engaged on a condition - you will not marry before 5 years. Understand the guy, understand whether you like him enough to marry him. If there's anything wrong, then take it up with your family.
All the best!
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to - [email protected]
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