'Love happens without intimation'
11 Jun 2013 2:37 AM IST
I’m 32, married for 5 years. I love my husband but I think I’ve fallen in love with someone else. What should I do?
Love happens without intimation and ‘love’ as a feeling can never be defined or dictated. I understand that the feeling of love for someone outside your marriage can lead to a suppressed feeling of guilt. But, honestly speaking – cool down, relax! As long as you are happy with this new season of love and its colors, don’t bother your nerves. Always remember, anything that ensures peaceful sleep and constant happiness is welcome. Just one word of caution, keep your personal life to yourself. Don’t speak about it to others. Have a happy life dear.
I’m from South Delhi. I recently got engaged, I have physical intimacy with my fiancé. But somehow, I fantasise about her sister a lot.
There’s a problem for sure! Specially if the ‘fantasy’ doesn’t maintain its secrecy! Its all in your mind. There are millions who fantasise models, actors while getting intimate with their partners. And no rule book for penalizing such acts. All I can say, Be careful!
Your ‘would-be’ would be really shattered if she knows it.
So either concentrate and take her more seriously and get the sister out of your mind or marry the sister. Or change your mind and marry a completely new person who probably has no ‘sister’.
But whatever you do, be quiet about it.
I am 59. Met a young girl on internet. She’s taking a lot of interest in me. I’m getting nervous. What should I do?
Congrats! That’s amazing! Age should never be a reason to hold you back from exploring. If you’re happy with this ‘new episode’ of internet buddies, just get happier! You’ve nothing to win or lose and mental happiness over all is the biggest trophy. So, dear friend, just browse on, just flow on.
We have two kids and I love my wife. But couple of months back, my old girlfriend got in touch and I got to know that she’s divorced. We are in touch and I went out for coffee with her twice. I’m very guilty suppressing it from my wife as I fear if she hears, her heart will break. What should I do?
Depends on your personal equation with her. Tell her only if you guys are real good friends. Its sometimes very difficult for Indian woman to accept any face beside her man easily. So, let the ice melt on its own. Don’t rush to reveal. Let the coffee breaks continue peacefully so that life remains happy for all.
I love my wife but don’t enjoy our physical chemistry as she’s damn frigid. I don’t know how to make it better.
You should start from the basics. Begin from the beginning. Start from adding small touches of love, surprise kisses, hugs. Just holding on and longer can turn it magically. Try to seduce her at any unexpected moment - the kitchen, the garden, the, those corners of home that remain unexplored. Get wild there. You can watch porn together and talk about it. Intimate conversations during sex and talking about sex may work for her. Keep exploring, read books and keep loving her. At the end of the day we all know what stays.
I am in high school. I have developed the habit of watching porn everyday. I am unable to stop. What can I do? Is it normal.
Listen dear, you have to come out of it gradually. Pornography is unreal and if you continue then you might lose interest in having sex with your partner/partners in the future. The virtual is a fantasy and it has to get over someday. Watch them but less.
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to
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Love happens without intimation and ‘love’ as a feeling can never be defined or dictated. I understand that the feeling of love for someone outside your marriage can lead to a suppressed feeling of guilt. But, honestly speaking – cool down, relax! As long as you are happy with this new season of love and its colors, don’t bother your nerves. Always remember, anything that ensures peaceful sleep and constant happiness is welcome. Just one word of caution, keep your personal life to yourself. Don’t speak about it to others. Have a happy life dear.
I’m from South Delhi. I recently got engaged, I have physical intimacy with my fiancé. But somehow, I fantasise about her sister a lot.
There’s a problem for sure! Specially if the ‘fantasy’ doesn’t maintain its secrecy! Its all in your mind. There are millions who fantasise models, actors while getting intimate with their partners. And no rule book for penalizing such acts. All I can say, Be careful!
Your ‘would-be’ would be really shattered if she knows it.
So either concentrate and take her more seriously and get the sister out of your mind or marry the sister. Or change your mind and marry a completely new person who probably has no ‘sister’.
But whatever you do, be quiet about it.
I am 59. Met a young girl on internet. She’s taking a lot of interest in me. I’m getting nervous. What should I do?
Congrats! That’s amazing! Age should never be a reason to hold you back from exploring. If you’re happy with this ‘new episode’ of internet buddies, just get happier! You’ve nothing to win or lose and mental happiness over all is the biggest trophy. So, dear friend, just browse on, just flow on.
We have two kids and I love my wife. But couple of months back, my old girlfriend got in touch and I got to know that she’s divorced. We are in touch and I went out for coffee with her twice. I’m very guilty suppressing it from my wife as I fear if she hears, her heart will break. What should I do?
Depends on your personal equation with her. Tell her only if you guys are real good friends. Its sometimes very difficult for Indian woman to accept any face beside her man easily. So, let the ice melt on its own. Don’t rush to reveal. Let the coffee breaks continue peacefully so that life remains happy for all.
I love my wife but don’t enjoy our physical chemistry as she’s damn frigid. I don’t know how to make it better.
You should start from the basics. Begin from the beginning. Start from adding small touches of love, surprise kisses, hugs. Just holding on and longer can turn it magically. Try to seduce her at any unexpected moment - the kitchen, the garden, the, those corners of home that remain unexplored. Get wild there. You can watch porn together and talk about it. Intimate conversations during sex and talking about sex may work for her. Keep exploring, read books and keep loving her. At the end of the day we all know what stays.
I am in high school. I have developed the habit of watching porn everyday. I am unable to stop. What can I do? Is it normal.
Listen dear, you have to come out of it gradually. Pornography is unreal and if you continue then you might lose interest in having sex with your partner/partners in the future. The virtual is a fantasy and it has to get over someday. Watch them but less.
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to
[email protected]
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