Help her reconnect with her sexual side
17 Nov 2014 2:49 AM IST
I want to quit smoking. How to start the plan, I’m unable to do it?
D Prakash, Hyderabad
May be this could be the START -
S = Set a quit date: Choose a date within the next two weeks, so you have enough time to prepare without losing your motivation to quit. If you mainly smoke at work, quit on the weekend, so you have a few days to adjust to the change.
T = Tell family, friends, and co-workers that you plan to quit: Let your friends and family in on your plan to quit smoking and tell them you need their support and encouragement to stop. Look for a quit buddy who wants to stop smoking as well.
A = Anticipate and plan for the challenges you’ll face while quitting: Most people who begin smoking again do so within the first 3 months. You can prepare ahead for common challenges, such as nicotine withdrawal and cigarette cravings.
R = Remove cigarettes and other tobacco products from your home, car, and work: Throw away all of your cigarettes (no emergency pack!), lighters, ashtrays, and matches. Clean your clothes of the smell of smoke.
T = Talk to your doctor, your doctor can prescribe medication to help with withdrawal and suggest other alternatives. Also you can get many products over the counter at your local pharmacy or grocery store, including the nicotine patch and nicotine gum. Good luck!
How can I increase my wife’s sex drive to match mine?
Name unknown,
New Delhi
A mismatch in sexual desire between partners can create sadness and tension, but this is often temporary. Very often lowered desire is a natural effect of childbearing or of tiredness and stress due to work, or family issues. Worrying about money, in-laws, or caring for elderly relatives can also make a woman feel that having sex is the last thing she feels like doing.Your sexual wishes require high energy and stamina – your wife may currently see this as yet another chore at the end of a tough day. Schedule sex earlier in the day, and find ways to help her relax.Help her reconnect with her sexual side by paying attention to what pleases her sexually, giving her compliments, taking her out, and treating her like a precious lover – even when you’re not in bed.
I think my husband is gay, but won’t admit it.
Mrs Vasu,
Madhya Pradesh
It sounds like you are fighting a losing battle. Even if he isn’t gay, I’m not sure why you would want to stay married. His behavior, gay or not aren’t going to change, and neither are your reactions to his behaviors - which I’m sure frustrate him as much as his frustrates you! Usually I suggest trying to work it out through counseling, etc - but it sounds like the problems outweigh the possibility of solution. Have you and he discussed divorce? An amicable divorce would perhaps leave you both with a greater chance at happiness. Sometimes two people just aren’t meant to be together. Don’t worry. Wish you a happy life ahead.
Send your questions to - [email protected]
D Prakash, Hyderabad
May be this could be the START -
S = Set a quit date: Choose a date within the next two weeks, so you have enough time to prepare without losing your motivation to quit. If you mainly smoke at work, quit on the weekend, so you have a few days to adjust to the change.
T = Tell family, friends, and co-workers that you plan to quit: Let your friends and family in on your plan to quit smoking and tell them you need their support and encouragement to stop. Look for a quit buddy who wants to stop smoking as well.
A = Anticipate and plan for the challenges you’ll face while quitting: Most people who begin smoking again do so within the first 3 months. You can prepare ahead for common challenges, such as nicotine withdrawal and cigarette cravings.
R = Remove cigarettes and other tobacco products from your home, car, and work: Throw away all of your cigarettes (no emergency pack!), lighters, ashtrays, and matches. Clean your clothes of the smell of smoke.
T = Talk to your doctor, your doctor can prescribe medication to help with withdrawal and suggest other alternatives. Also you can get many products over the counter at your local pharmacy or grocery store, including the nicotine patch and nicotine gum. Good luck!
How can I increase my wife’s sex drive to match mine?
Name unknown,
New Delhi
A mismatch in sexual desire between partners can create sadness and tension, but this is often temporary. Very often lowered desire is a natural effect of childbearing or of tiredness and stress due to work, or family issues. Worrying about money, in-laws, or caring for elderly relatives can also make a woman feel that having sex is the last thing she feels like doing.Your sexual wishes require high energy and stamina – your wife may currently see this as yet another chore at the end of a tough day. Schedule sex earlier in the day, and find ways to help her relax.Help her reconnect with her sexual side by paying attention to what pleases her sexually, giving her compliments, taking her out, and treating her like a precious lover – even when you’re not in bed.
I think my husband is gay, but won’t admit it.
Mrs Vasu,
Madhya Pradesh
It sounds like you are fighting a losing battle. Even if he isn’t gay, I’m not sure why you would want to stay married. His behavior, gay or not aren’t going to change, and neither are your reactions to his behaviors - which I’m sure frustrate him as much as his frustrates you! Usually I suggest trying to work it out through counseling, etc - but it sounds like the problems outweigh the possibility of solution. Have you and he discussed divorce? An amicable divorce would perhaps leave you both with a greater chance at happiness. Sometimes two people just aren’t meant to be together. Don’t worry. Wish you a happy life ahead.
Send your questions to - [email protected]
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