I can’t interact with people hence I get secluded in social gatherings. I don’t know why but I can’t make friends. I’m 24, male and am single. How do I get out of this?
Tuhin, New Delhi
In today’s day and age it is indeed a bit important to meet and socialize. I suggest, you start spending time with a small group of friends. Make it a point to participate in discussions. Initiate topics that interest you. Start interacting with strangers while travelling. Strangers are sometimes easier to talk to. Start with small talks and gradually weave longer conversations. Good Luck! There’s nothing to lose, just open up!
My sister’s husband is having an affair with someone. They have a 3-year-old daughter. How do we convince my brother-in-law to come out of that trap?
Savita, Haryana
Convincing someone to do anything against his/her own will is impossible. Ideally your sister or you should have a open chat with the man. Try to understand the reality and if need be, the couple should go to a professional counselor to take help for reconstructing their marriage.
My husband is determined to live in the joint family. But, it’s killing me. I come from a peaceful nuclear family and living with nine people is a torture! What to do?
Meenal, Gujarat
I’m sure you knew the family and its members before stepping in. It’s difficult to convince a man to move out of his set up. You should not lose hope and request him to look for an alternate address close to the original house. Explain to him with love, tears and pleas if needed. Let’s hope he understands your problem and take steps accordingly.
My husband is mixing with a very wrong group and is frequenting night clubs and dance bars. He’s spending through his credit cards too! I’m worried. How can I stop him?
Divya Sinha, Delhi
Just hide his credit cards and ensure he doesn’t splurge this way. He should be made to understand the outcome of the life he’s leading now. Either you or some friend/relative should talk to him. If need be, involve the parents who sometimes have the right medicine for recovery.
Can you give me some information on ‘safe period’. I’m getting married next month and feel nervous already.
Name withheld
One should know the duration of the cycle, i.e. first day of the last menstrual bleeding to the first day of the next menstrual bleeding. This is the duration of the menstrual cycle. This duration varies from person to person and is usually between 26 to 31 days. Ovulation approximately occurs in the middle of the cycle, i.e. duration of the cycle - (minus) 14 days (this also varies). A week before and a week after the approximate day of ovulation is considered to be the ‘fertile’. The days apart from this is called the ‘safe’.
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Tuhin, New Delhi
In today’s day and age it is indeed a bit important to meet and socialize. I suggest, you start spending time with a small group of friends. Make it a point to participate in discussions. Initiate topics that interest you. Start interacting with strangers while travelling. Strangers are sometimes easier to talk to. Start with small talks and gradually weave longer conversations. Good Luck! There’s nothing to lose, just open up!
My sister’s husband is having an affair with someone. They have a 3-year-old daughter. How do we convince my brother-in-law to come out of that trap?
Savita, Haryana
Convincing someone to do anything against his/her own will is impossible. Ideally your sister or you should have a open chat with the man. Try to understand the reality and if need be, the couple should go to a professional counselor to take help for reconstructing their marriage.
My husband is determined to live in the joint family. But, it’s killing me. I come from a peaceful nuclear family and living with nine people is a torture! What to do?
Meenal, Gujarat
I’m sure you knew the family and its members before stepping in. It’s difficult to convince a man to move out of his set up. You should not lose hope and request him to look for an alternate address close to the original house. Explain to him with love, tears and pleas if needed. Let’s hope he understands your problem and take steps accordingly.
My husband is mixing with a very wrong group and is frequenting night clubs and dance bars. He’s spending through his credit cards too! I’m worried. How can I stop him?
Divya Sinha, Delhi
Just hide his credit cards and ensure he doesn’t splurge this way. He should be made to understand the outcome of the life he’s leading now. Either you or some friend/relative should talk to him. If need be, involve the parents who sometimes have the right medicine for recovery.
Can you give me some information on ‘safe period’. I’m getting married next month and feel nervous already.
Name withheld
One should know the duration of the cycle, i.e. first day of the last menstrual bleeding to the first day of the next menstrual bleeding. This is the duration of the menstrual cycle. This duration varies from person to person and is usually between 26 to 31 days. Ovulation approximately occurs in the middle of the cycle, i.e. duration of the cycle - (minus) 14 days (this also varies). A week before and a week after the approximate day of ovulation is considered to be the ‘fertile’. The days apart from this is called the ‘safe’.
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to - roopshashotm@gmail.com