My daughter is in the 10th standard. She is always out with a group of girls who are much older than her. Her lifestyle is annoying me but she doesn’t listen to us! What can we do?
Mrs. Sneha Singh, New Delhi
To begin with, I would want to know why you are feeling annoyed. Is it because of the fact that they are older and you fear that they may turn out to be a bad influence on her or is it just that you don’t know what kind of a friendship they have? These older friends could also be helping your daughter get through life more easily and things she feels she cannot discuss with you, she discusses with them. Talk to your daughter and have a heart-to-heart chat and both your problems can then be solved.
I am a 24-year-old man. I was bullied mercilessly throughout my school years. I also failed my 12th standard exam. To add to all this misery I can’t even find a job... I need help to rebuild my faith in life. Please give me some advice.
Name and address withheld
I believe sometimes it is important to forgive in order to move on in life. I understand that you have been wronged but carrying the negative vibes with you in life is only serving as an impediment. Move on and believe in the best of you, love yourself the way you are and slowly you will be able to love and find peace which in turn will help you focus on the work at hand and soon success will follow.
I am a 20 year old man. My girlfriend had a crush on a guy a long time ago. She hasn’t spoken to him in almost a year now. However, she still keeps talking about him all the time. She never fails to mention my shortcomings and point out his strengths. How do I make her stop talking about the other guy?
Naresh, Lucknow
Are you sure your girlfriend is aware of the heartache she is causing you? Sometimes people do things unknowingly, please stop fuming over this communication gap only in your heart and try telling her how you feel. I am sure she will understand and you guys will be fine together. Just express yourself and don’t worry so much. Love is always meant to go a long way if it is true.
I have been seeing a guy since last 3 years. He’s serious about the relationship but never mentions marriage. I’m 21 years old and he’s 24. Is this normal?
Ayesha, New Delhi
Are you listening to yourself? You both are probably too young to consider marriage. Enjoy each other and may be, just maybe, he is a little scared of commitment. Instead of nagging him about marriage try to have a mature conversation about your future. Sometimes people do take a lot of things for granted. Maybe that’s the case with him. He believes the theory of unspoken words being more powerful than said ones!
I am not as good looking as my mother. Relatives always poke me on that and that is the reason why I avoid visiting them. I feel very hurt when anyone comments on my appearance. What can I do to get out of this?
Divya, Madhya Pradhesh
First and foremost convince yourself that you are an individual and beauty cannot be quantified or defined. As to the comments, whenever anyone says anything, just tell them you might be an ugly duckling but soon you will emerge a beautiful and serene swan.
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Mrs. Sneha Singh, New Delhi
To begin with, I would want to know why you are feeling annoyed. Is it because of the fact that they are older and you fear that they may turn out to be a bad influence on her or is it just that you don’t know what kind of a friendship they have? These older friends could also be helping your daughter get through life more easily and things she feels she cannot discuss with you, she discusses with them. Talk to your daughter and have a heart-to-heart chat and both your problems can then be solved.
I am a 24-year-old man. I was bullied mercilessly throughout my school years. I also failed my 12th standard exam. To add to all this misery I can’t even find a job... I need help to rebuild my faith in life. Please give me some advice.
Name and address withheld
I believe sometimes it is important to forgive in order to move on in life. I understand that you have been wronged but carrying the negative vibes with you in life is only serving as an impediment. Move on and believe in the best of you, love yourself the way you are and slowly you will be able to love and find peace which in turn will help you focus on the work at hand and soon success will follow.
I am a 20 year old man. My girlfriend had a crush on a guy a long time ago. She hasn’t spoken to him in almost a year now. However, she still keeps talking about him all the time. She never fails to mention my shortcomings and point out his strengths. How do I make her stop talking about the other guy?
Naresh, Lucknow
Are you sure your girlfriend is aware of the heartache she is causing you? Sometimes people do things unknowingly, please stop fuming over this communication gap only in your heart and try telling her how you feel. I am sure she will understand and you guys will be fine together. Just express yourself and don’t worry so much. Love is always meant to go a long way if it is true.
I have been seeing a guy since last 3 years. He’s serious about the relationship but never mentions marriage. I’m 21 years old and he’s 24. Is this normal?
Ayesha, New Delhi
Are you listening to yourself? You both are probably too young to consider marriage. Enjoy each other and may be, just maybe, he is a little scared of commitment. Instead of nagging him about marriage try to have a mature conversation about your future. Sometimes people do take a lot of things for granted. Maybe that’s the case with him. He believes the theory of unspoken words being more powerful than said ones!
I am not as good looking as my mother. Relatives always poke me on that and that is the reason why I avoid visiting them. I feel very hurt when anyone comments on my appearance. What can I do to get out of this?
Divya, Madhya Pradhesh
First and foremost convince yourself that you are an individual and beauty cannot be quantified or defined. As to the comments, whenever anyone says anything, just tell them you might be an ugly duckling but soon you will emerge a beautiful and serene swan.
Have a love or life query you cannot find an answer to? Send your questions to -
roopshashotm@gmail.com